Thursday, 10 August 2017
Happily Ever After
When I was a child I had this rose tinted view of life and how it was going to play out, I was going to do well at senior school and get top grades then flounce off to college and uni ready to make my mark on the world. I had high hopes of going to a 3rd world country for my gap year before returning here and getting myself a job as an art therapist for young people with mental health issues. I wanted to help people like me who were suffering. Then I figured I'd meet a nice boy and we'd have this romantic whirlwind romance and he'd get down on one knee beneath the fireworks and propose,we'd get married in an old chapel and I'd be wearing a stunning Grecian inspired gown and then we'd go on to have a son and a daughter and own our own house in the country and I'd get the happily ever after I so desperately craved.
It's funny thinking back to how I thought I wanted my life to be. All clean cut with precision. What in fact happened was I left school at 16 and and went through 4 jobs in 12 months before eventually discovering I enjoyed working in retail. I managed to get given a great opportunity at 17 running my own department in a clothing store whilst being trained as a visual merchandiser. I loved my job. I'd just come out of a shitty relationship and bounced around from boy to boy not really allowing myself to connect with anyone. Then I met Mitch and he changed my entire life....he saved my life.
Within 7 months we were living together,at 9 months he proposed and then when we'd been together almost 11 months I found out I was pregnant with our first child. Fast forward 11 years and we have 4 children and have been married for 7 years. He's given me so much to live for, including 3 incredible step children whom I love very much. Our life together has not been easy, not by a long shot but we've weathered every storm and it's made us stronger than ever. Our original wedding ceremony back in 2010 was a small private affair at a registry office with just 10 guests. It was perfect in every way and last year to celebrate a decade together we renewed our vows with a pagan hand fasting ceremony and big party with all our friends and family.
I may not have the career I envisioned or all the money in the world but what I do have is a family I'd die for and that makes me the richest and happiest 31 year old ever.